Updated: Feb 24
I thought it would be only right to start my blog with How to Live the Life You Want. We all have a vision for what we want but it seems it’s hard to achieve due to unforeseen circumstances. True enough we can’t control what’s going to happen but we sure can control how we go about it. No matter how old and where you are, dreaming is great. When I coach my clients, everyone comes to me for different issues/results. One thing everyone has in common is they all want something and either don’t know how to get there or they do but are stuck in a particular mind frame. If you want a certain life, you must be willing to have an open mind and a drive to get there because you will fall.
So what do you want?
Make sure to have a goal on paper or something visual. Having something visual is great because you always have a starting point and a reference to go to when writing out plans to achieve it. Let's say one of your goals in life is to have your own business and not work for anyone. Well, you need to write that down. Once you do that, you need to figure out why you want to work for yourself and what is the bigger picture. If you do not have a real reason for wanting whatever it is you claim you want, it will be hard to stick too. I know for me, I always wanted my own business and as early as the age of 9, I was into acting and made goals that I would graduate High School and go to school for Nursing (I love the medical field) while pursuing my acting career. My reasoning then was, I never wanted to truly be in the medical field because I like the flexibility of being my own boss but I wanted a backup in case my acting career didn't go as planned. At least I would be in a profession that I loved and would always be in need of. I also knew I didn’t want anyone telling me what I can and can’t do.
Well now being in my 20s, I did accomplish my goal of pursuing an acting career, which I am happy with, but then I grew to realize how much hours really go into this profession and the competition but I love it nonetheless. I grew a passion to help others in my teen years once my dad and I had to take care of my sick mother who was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease. By the time I was 21 years old, I got a job as a health assistant and I was thankful for that job as it provided money for me to pay my rent and all the bills but I barely had the money for gas to go back and forth to work. At the time I had very little acting work going on but I was getting a lot of auditions. I had to think and figure out what I really wanted and realized acting and motivating others is what I loved. I couldn’t stand people always being depressed and making excuses and I felt that way because I had a lot of odds against me and somehow seemed to still be happy and had money none the less. My outlook was just different than most people my age and I noticed I had been through a lot at that point in my life with having a sick parent, watching my dad lose his house and so on. After helping a particular couple, I then realized some 50-year-olds didn’t know how to cope with life either. After me coaching a couple around that age and at the time I didn’t realize it was coaching, I was just trying to encourage them in a time of need (Don’t ask but yes a couple confided in me at the age of 22 but guess what they are happy and doing great in their life right now). Eventually, I started my own business as a Life coach; well I didn't actually call it that at the time. I just knew I helped someone out of committing suicide and somehow word of mouth spread as to how encouraging and inspirational I was. At that point, I started coaching a few clients and I was making a killing. I kid you not, I was making more than a person who had a bachelors and I was still in college myself.
How did I do it, well I planned it, as I said above? I couldn’t pay my bills, so I decided to think about my passion and that was acting and inspiring others. Once I had 4 people asking me to help them in different areas of their life, I was ecstatic but nervous because I naturally cared to see growth for them and money wasn’t that serious to charge like that. Those 4 people came up with their own rates and I worked with them for several months. After dealing with them, I created a course from scratch for my business. I worked with these clients and realized how the internet can take me to another level, when I decided to get me a secondary phone line and I got that for free of course (Google voice or whatever app you find) and I set up my PayPal account for the money. I didn’t want no one's personal card information and thought what better way to get started officially. I then created my own website and played with the prices of my packages. All of this I did, I had planned and wrote it down and took action. I knew I needed a line to talk to people without giving my personal number, I also knew I had to accept payments other than cash, so I got PayPal and eventually, I added all the essentials like Skype and found some great life coach tools online too.
We can create what we want but we have to be able to reroute our course when a storm comes. But when our REASONING for the Goal is a priority, nothing will come in the way of that. Make sure to SIGNUP/REGISTER for more ways of staying on track. I will be sending out my free course on how to make extra money from home, without coming out of your pocket. You don’t have to become a life coach, there are so many other ways that I can’t cover here but I will be glad to share it with you.